Why My Husband is a Saint

The last few weeks have been torture for me, and its easy to loose sight of just how terrible they have likely been for my husband as well.  In this whole mess, he has done everything he can to be supportive, loving and understanding.

In addition to have a bitchy, pregnant and overdue wife to cope with, he has been having one hell of a time at work.  He is the general manager at his job, and in these hard economic times, he and the owner have made the decision to cut back on as much staff as possible.  This means in addition to doing his normal job, DH is doing the job of everyone who has been laid off.  

I had no idea how hard it has been on him because he hasn't been telling me everything that has been happening.  He is worried about causing me more stress. 

This week, he started having back problems.  His upper back is so tight, he is having trouble just moving around.  He winces in pain every time he sits or stands or reaches or does pretty much anything.  The cause... stress. 

This morning I overheard him talking to the company owner on the phone.  Apparently, in addition to everything else he is doing, he is taking one of his customers to court next week because they owe thousands of dollars, which at this point may make the difference in whether or not they have to let another employee go.  When is this court date?  Tuesday. 

I'm having my membranes stripped on Monday. 

When I asked him what we would do if I was finally in labor, he told me that he would figure something out.

Holy crap... I can't even imagine the pressure he is under. 

And he still fawns all over me every night when he gets home from work and loves me up and takes care of all of the stuff around the house that I can longer do myself.  And when I was sobbing yesterday, he sat with me and held me and told me how great I was doing.

I think he might actually be a saint.

What I'm Thankful For

This is a little belated (Thanksgiving was yesterday), but I have so much to be Thankful for this holiday season.

I am thankful for:

• My Amazing Husband.  I never pictured how the stress of pregancy could potentially affect our relationship.  I have, at more times that I am proud of, been a completely controlling maniacal emotional wreck, and somehow, this man still continues to love me.  He tells me I'm beautiful even though I'm gigantic.  He works hard to make me feel good and stays by my side even when I am crying hysterically for no apparent reason.  And just yesterday, while we were making the 2+ hour drive to my mom's for dinner, he grabbed my hand and told me how happy he was to be married to me.  It has been hard being pregnant and newly married, but I can't imagine going through any of this without him.
• My health and fertility.  I joke A LOT about how we never planned on getting pregnant this quickly and having a little less time to prep for Bug has been terrifying at times.  But I know so many people who have had trouble TTC and I feel incredibly lucky to be in this position.
• My family.  They drive me nuts.  They are over involved.  They take over every situation.  And they are completely and totally supportive and wonderful.  They have even worked out a schedule to watch Bug between the time my maternity leave ends and summer break begins so that we don't have to put her into daycare.
• Our pets.  There is nothing better than coming home to a house full of fluffies after a crappy day.

What are you thankful for?

My Shotgun Wedding: The Invite

Let me start by saying that I hate HATE hate being the center of attention, so that alone has prevented me from ever wanting a big traditional wedding.  Thankfully, DH wasn't too keen on the idea of a big wedding either.  Ideally, I don't think either of us would have invited anyone if my family wasn't...well... my family.  At one point DH suggested that we just get married without telling anyone and just changing my facebook status to Married.  When I found out I was pregnant, this didn't do much to our wedding plans, except we decided we should get it done sometime before the baby came.

We set the date for September 3rd, just after I hit the 20 week mark in my pregnancy and sent out the following email to our potential guests:

Hi All,


In order to be eco-friendly (and cheap... postage is very expensive now!) I am emailing all of you to let you know that we have set a date for our highly extravagent nuptuals. We will be entering into wedded bliss on Friday, September 3rd at 2:00 pm in the highly acclaimed County Clerks Office.


We tried to schedule it for a convenient time, but ran into a few problems.


1. They are only open Monday-Friday from 8-4


2. We are trying to save sick/vacation time for Carlos (our fetus), so we will be honeymooning at home, and will be taking advantage of the 3 day weekend that follows.


3. There were only 3 remaining slots available on that day. The others were in the morning, and DF has informed me that if he is taking a day off at work, he'd like to work in a round of golf in the morning.


The woman who works in the clerks office has informed us that there is room for 20ish people (to be exact) in the room where the ceremony will be taking place, but if it's a nice day we can go outside so I can go ahead and invite as many people as I want.


I'm hoping you guys will be able to make it, but know that you have jobs and other things going on. We understand if you can't make it, but we are hoping that if you aren't able to join us that you will be able to come to the party we will be having the following day (Saturday the 4th) at my, i mean, our house.


We don't really have any other details worked out for the wedding/party so comments and suggestions are welcome. We were thinking we might be able to find a place big enough for those who are able to come to go out to dinner on Friday night and I'm thinking DF and I may stay at a hotel that night and leave the house for anyone who might like a place to stay and likes sharing their sleeping space with animals.


Peace out!

PS. Grandpa Trini can come as well, but I know he's struggling with the email. Did I forget anyone else?